Avoid Dating Mistakes That May Cause Disasters
Dating is a healthy habit for gals and guys looking for stable relationships in life. Now who hasn’t had dating disaster stories to tell? But it all comes down, even if you don’t click with the date, you don’t have to have a disastrous memory about that. Well, here are some tips so next time your office colleague asks you out or your common friends fixed you up for a date, you don’t have to have that quote-unquote “E-X-P-E-R-I-E-N-C-E” which might put a damper on the notion of “Dating” for you. You really don’t wanna end up being alone in some bar out of disastrous date and blabber to the bar-tender all drunk. No not that one. (Flirt with the bartender but be sober about it, that’s what smart people do!)
Now let’s get down to business!
- Let things start at it’s own pace.
It’s one of the reasons people get disappointed after the date as they end up getting their expectations too high, things seem not so. Big-O-disappointing factor. If you’re going out on a “date”, be real! You’re definitely not getting married, no that at all and most importantly it’s a first date, you two aren’t couple yet! So know the situation in it’s own reality and let things start naturally.
- Try to actually have a conversation.
Both of you’re adults have at least the least bit of patience and start a conversation and try to contribute to it. Both of you might start enjoying yourselves. Conversing means not to freak each other out or monopolize the conversation, you don’t want to argue or certainly you’re not there to debate. Let the conversation be about something simple, soothing topic with might interest you both. Remember it’s not solely anyone’s singular fault that the other ones getting bored. So first be sure that you enjoy your own company before expecting too high of others. But, hey! Just be easy-going, things will fall into it’s places eventually.
- Focus on having a good time.
Just focus to enjoy the time you have, put all expectations aside, have a bit of time get rolling. You may not come out of the date with your future life partner, but you might gain a friend out of the date or might not meet that person again, but you’ll have a good memory about it. This is really important. Don’t make any dating experience get to a point when you’d say, “I’ve had enough!” (Please not out of frustration or repulsion.) No one really wants that to happen.
- Where to set the meeting point?
Try a place that you both will like. So clarify that before you meet face to face for the date. You might be going for a blind date, but being at the right place at the right time has its own benefits. So, if you’re sporty gal and if he’s too, meet at a bowling joint. Keep your options open. So, even if you two didn’t click out, you still might enjoy the evening, no regrets!
- Dating nerv, bad damper on things.
If you feel too nervous about it, cool yourself up. There are many people out there who suffer due to this syndrome and even though they are pretty good people, they end up being bad dates and still are single due to this nerv issue. Take a breather, you can feel nervous if you really like your date, it’s natural, you might spill drink or such out of nervousness, but don’t get shied away. Who knows, your date might also like you insanely and you two might end up being happily married in some distant future. So don’t kill that opportunity for yourself. Have some courage and just go for it.
- Set some activity plan.
Do plan out some activity based on the time frame, don’t wait for things to happen, you make them happen. Usually people don’t really think much about the possible activity before hand and expect magical things will happen to them suddenly. If you really want the fireworks, make sure you’re date is on the carnival day or if you want snow to make the evening more special, date during the winter. Precisely, I wanted to have the effect of seeing the stars during broad day light, went to a planetarium. So, be a bit more practical than being ruled by the heart locker. Well, even with me, things didn’t go well in ‘that’ direction for that guy, but like I said, make sure, no regrets!
- Gals try not to look like too high a maintenance.
Smokey eyes, with diva like look for an office colleague who has seen you every other day with your office clothes on…it’s a deal breaker. You don’t have to appear to be the diva on a first date! Who knows if you’ll see that guy again like, ever? So, keep it down to a notch. Wear something appropriate for the venue you’ve selected for the evening.
- Food … food … food choice.
It is indeed one of the important elements of the evening. Select the food that you eat and know, don’t experiment on some little known Mexican dish you’ve heard about here and there. You really don’t have to order based only on the price tag, order what you like. If you feel the evening going splendidly and you already enjoying the other’s company, then allow him/her to participate along with you, and can go for choosing dishes together, and if you really feel things sparking, might opt for sharing the desert scoop together rather than eating like a dragon lady or a snobby chap. So think twice before booking for the expensive restaurant, and be sure if that’s what you really want. You can enjoy even more if KFC of MacDonald is your thing. Don’t change yourself for the evening, it’s not worth it. Be yourself and have a good time.
- Don’t opt for the nooky stuff right on the first date.
Ok, we get it, you might like him/her already and you’d wish things were a bit way ahead. Stop right there my good fellow, it’s only been a first date! You’ve been on your best behavior and that’s all about it. How much can you know bout the other one in just one date? Nada my friend. Even if you’re work colleagues or common friends and have seen each other many times, but you’ve been on one date. So, take some time re-evaluate. One little yet intimate good night kiss might be the highest bid. No more.
- Don’t act silly based on any Hollywood version of romance.
I’ve heard about the 5dates rule, first date no kiss rule, and many more… Rings any bell? There maybe many Hollywood versions did quiet an impact on your criteria of the whole dating thing, that will not only break your heart, but might break all your courage if things go wrong. For instance, you pose to your date about the 5dates rule; guys react really well with such challenges. You offer him with a good challenge; he’ll jump up and be sporty about it. You can’t help it, it’s the man nature. So, don’t cry your eyes off if the guy turns out to be a jerk after the 5th date. You offered him a challenge, he pulled it off. Easy and simple. So, say no to all those dreamy, amazing, and God-know-what version of Hollywood romance ideas, get real. This is 2012, no one really is that simple these days. Certainly you’re not too. It’s no good pretending either. You’re certainly not Merlin Monroe and do look what happened to her in reality. You certainly don’t want to end up that way I’m sure!
Be realistic, the might spark may or may not swipe you off your feet, but have faith, date safely and maybe you won’t gain a life partner out of a ‘date’ but certainly might walk out with a life long friend or a pleasant memory. No more ‘dating’ horror to chase you down.
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